Asking For Help

Everybody needs somebody. I know there are those who may feel they don’t need anyone –as long as I’ve got “me, myself, and I”, I’m good. This is the echo of some of my brilliantly, beautiful sisters all over the world. Some of my sisters are from different ethnicities, cultures, and backgrounds, but the fact that we share the space of womanhood makes us similar.

As a single woman, I admit that I am pretty independent. I think it’s because of the way I was raised. I still chuckle at the thought of my mom teaching my siblings and I how to wash clothes, go to the bank and grocery stores to conduct transactions at five years old!  My parents were the type that followed the saying, “Give a man a fish and he’ll eat today. Teach a man to fish and he’ll eat the rest of his life.”

I cannot tell you how much I appreciate this life skill as it’s been a crucial asset along my journey. I believe self-sufficiency is needful and important to you and me because it equips us to have an arsenal of skills and traits at our disposable when we need it most. The flip side is being self-sufficient to the extreme can make you disregard the need and joy of being connected to people.

I can recall too many instances of over-working or over-doing something simply because I did not ask for help. It was not because help was not present, I just didn’t ask for it. As I’ve gotten older and wiser, I ask for help as often as I need to. And people have been so gracious to assist in any way needed. I’m surrounded by people from various walks of life, but it’s always so refreshing to see men helping in their families, communities, and organizations. (SN: Hats off to all of the men who are present serving, doing, listening, and caring. I SEE you and I honor you for your heart and dedication. We need you more now than ever before).

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of being human. You are not wired to do life alone or be by yourself. One of the enemy’s key strategies is isolation. If he can pull you away from being around community or good people, he has an open door to attack. “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (Ecclesiates 4:12 NLT).

God will give you people for your life. He knows how to orchestrate your coming and going to intersect with those you need in your life at the right time. This has been my daily confession over myself for several years:


As God transitions you into different phases of your life, He also changes your company and environment. Changes in your environment can be external (physical), but it can also be internal (spirit and psychological). There is a way to travel in the spirit long before physical attributes take form and is able to catch up. (I’ll talk more about this element at a later time).

All in all, ask the Lord to send people in your life that mean you good. And more importantly, be a gift to others and mean them good. It would not be fair for you and I to reap where we have not sown. Be the answer to someone else’s prayers. When you extend help and kindness to others as often as you can, don’t be surprised when it is returned back to you (sometimes without you having to ask for it).

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Sometimes life is as hard as we make it. I believe you’ll get way more YES’s than NO’s if you just ask. What do you have to lose anyway? It won’t be the end of the world 🙂 Make a new friend, find your person, lock into your tribe—just don’t do life alone. May peace and prosperity be with you always.

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